There are a great many energies in the world. It is valuable to observe that these different energies interact with one another. They can enhance or they can have a dampening effect on each other.
I talk of love and beauty as energies and as such, together they create a synergy. Yet, they can also act as amplifiers for other energies you want in your life.
Let’s examine three energies that are significant to a life well lived and explore how you can work with love and beauty to enhance them.
The three I will work with are health/healing, relationship, and enjoyment.
I will not be able to touch on these energies in great depth. However you’ll begin to see how you can create a positive synergy that includes love, beauty and whichever other energy you are working with. Wouldn’t it be nice to know that you can use love and beauty in other ways than only in relationships?
Health and healing
So often when there is something to be healed, whether it’s the physical, mental, emotional or spiritual aspect of a person or a situation, what comes up is a fear that it won’t get better, a sense of helplessness about it, or guilt, shame or aggravation. This last happens when you feel you’ve brought something on yourself. Although they are thought of as emotions, fear, helplessness, guilt, shame and aggravation are also energies. If what you are looking for is healing, they will dampening or diminishing effect on the healing.
So then how do you improve or grow the energy of healing? Both love and beauty carry a significant role here. In your society it’s common to bring beautiful flowers to someone who is in a sick room. Or people may bring something else of beauty. When you do this, it allows beauty to open a space of lightening up, literally allowing the light of healing in.
Likewise love. If you are around someone who is in ill health, consciously give your love to them. Also encourage their self-love to come forth. This supports them to surrender and move away from any sense of fear, guilt, shame or aggravation. The beauty and love serve as a kick-starter for the energy of healing to do its work. This may seem simplistic, but I assure you it is a powerful way to consciously work with the energies to make a difference.
So what is going on? When you work with love in your own healing, the foundation for this energy is honor and respect. This honoring and respecting yourself is a necessary component of the healing process. You also want to embrace what others, be it medical staff, spiritual adviser, or family member, offer you in this respect. These aspects of love interact with and lubricate the healing to do its work.
When I talk about love, beauty and relationship, what I see often gets neglected is applying these energies to yourself. This is your most essential first step.
Welcome these energies. Play with them. I recommend you define what they are to you. Here are some questions to support your development:
- “If I were to have a truly loving and beautiful relationship with myself, what would it look and feel like?
- Can I name some components of what I would want?”
This type of introspection is foreign territory for most. They have never thought, “What would I want in a loving, beautiful, compassionate relationship with myself?” If you were to ask them these questions, they would probably say, “Huh!” and draw a total blank.
Here are some thoughts on further defining a wholesome relationship for yourself:
- I would like to respect and honor myself consistently.
- When I feel like I’ve done something wrong or bad, I want to have compassion for myself.
- I want a relationship with myself where I care about my well-being and attend to it lovingly, with a sense of warmth and caring concern.
- I want a relationship with myself where I don’t take everything so darned seriously. That would be loving. That would be fun!
- I’d take myself on dates to experience beautiful things. Sometimes this might be with someone else. Sometimes it might be only with myself.
These are but a few examples of where the love and the beauty can massage and expand your loving relationship with yourself.
Then what about relationship with others? So much of what I’ve said about relationship with self applies here too. Qualities of love that are particularly beneficial here are compassion, cherishing and treasuring the other, and being open and flexible to the differences between yourself and others.
Going further, being aware of who they are and how they do things that are different from you. Where there are differences, let love permeate the situation so that it softens your response. This is especially true when the differences feel conflicting.
We’ve talked about love, now what about beauty in a relationship?
When the relationship is allowed to blossom and you to blossom within it, this in itself creates a beauty. This is not something visual or that can be heard, but instead is something that is felt. This feeling, then, creates a beauty which enriches and enlivens the bond between the two people.
When you think of love and beauty, that mere thought brings forth a sense of enjoyment. But let’s go a little deeper than just that.
Enjoyment; it calls forth a lightening up in life. Experiencing enjoyment is every bit as critical to a life well lived as almost anything else you can do. It’s difficult to enjoy life when you feel overwhelmed, overworked, depressed or ill. Yet these are the very places that even small amounts of enjoyment can be beneficial, and help you to attend to that which needs to be addressed.
If there’s opportunity, for example, even in the midst of recovery from a hurricane or earthquake, to experience enjoyment, this will give energy and focus toward dealing more effectively with the particular challenge that’s up for you.
It’s very easy, when you are in a difficult situation, for your thoughts to loop back in circles around the problems. This limits your ability to be flexible and creative. Being able to touch joy, enjoyment or delight breaks up the heaviness so you can more effectively deal with your challenges.
So that’s a practical application in times of stress. Beyond this, seeking to have enjoyment and pleasure in your life has often been frowned on. It has been qualified as Hedonistic. Unless you take it to extremes, it is not. It is actually the stuff with which a quality life is created.
To sum it up
Love, beauty, enjoyment, relationship, and healing/health. A well rounded group of energies to constitute a whole and healthy life. In other blogs, I’ll talk about the energy of creativity, the energy of curiosity and other energies in relation to love and beauty. But these three, merged, mixed or blended with love and beauty can create a whole level of joy, in addition to contributing to a whole and wholesome life.